What's Normal
- •Most kids need a predictable wind‑down to switch from “day mode” to “sleep mode.”
- •A routine may work for a while, then wobble during growth spurts, travel, or busy seasons.
- •Overtired kids can look wired; undertired kids can look playful and chatty.
- •Consistency matters more than perfection—small repeats teach the brain what’s next.
Routine Steps
- 1Connect
Get close, breathe, and say one calm sentence that names bedtime.
- 2Set the plan
Give one simple boundary and one choice you can repeat.
- 3Close the loop
Use a calming cue and the same ending phrase each night.
What To Avoid
- •Long negotiations or adding new rewards mid‑routine.
- •Big reactions (anger, long lectures) that add energy.
- •Changing the plan repeatedly once lights are low.
What Helps Tonight
- •Keep the last 10 minutes of bedtime identical, even in a new place.
- •Use morning light and movement to help reset the body clock.
- •Expect temporary night waking—treat it as jet lag, not a new rule.
- •Use familiar sleep cues: the same song, same phrase, same comfort item.
- •Shift bedtime gradually after arrival when possible.
- •Be extra calm and brief at night—less talking helps faster settling.
When To Get Help
- •If sleep issues happen most nights for weeks and your family is exhausted.
- •If there are safety concerns (leaving the house, dangerous climbing, choking risks).
- •If you suspect pain, breathing problems, or you’re worried about health—check with a pediatrician.